Let me tell you a story. I attended a pre-wedding ceremony for my cousin yesterday. The morning did not start as I wanted it to. I woke up super early thinking I could use the bathroom to get ready while my husband was still sleeping (you all know it can take over an hour for a lady to get her shower, hair and make-up done). While I was drinking my tea, my husband decided to wake up early that day. Well, I came upstairs thinking I had an hour to get ready only to find the bathroom occupied! This led to some frustration and anger. After banging on the door, my husband allowed me to use the bathroom.
When my hair and make-up was done, I started putting on a traditional Indian sari (a long piece of cloth wrapped strategically around the body). Well, this can be a challenge on a good day. Turns out, my sari was a little short and I couldn’t tuck it into the skirt properly. This just added to my anger and frustration.
Finally, as we were ready to leave, my husband and I were bickering again about whether or not my son packed a snack for the event. As I was standing at the top of the stairs, and my husband was asking if I was coming down, I said I needed a minute to reset.
I could have gone to the event angry and frustrated. I would have been physically present, but my conversations would have been superficial and short, and my smile would have been fake. I would have avoided my husband, and stayed on the opposite side of the room talking to others. I know this because a very similar situation happened two years ago at another cousin’s wedding.
Thankfully, I have done some mindset work throughout my wellness journey. Standing on top of the stairs, I closed my eyes and took several deep breaths. I told myself, “this is not how I want to show up today. I can still change this.” I shifted my perspective and turned a bad day into a good day.
I enjoyed the event, had real conversations with family I haven’t seen in a few years. My smile was authentic, and most importantly, I showed up for my cousin and didn’t ruin her day. There were other things that could have made the day spiral downward at the event too. We were outside, under a tent. At one point, there was a quick rain shower, long enough to make the bottom of my sari, and shoes wet. I could have been upset, but instead, I just shrugged it off and went on with my day.
It took a lot of work for me to learn how to shift my mindset. I have learned many techniques over the last two years that really helped me to transform my thoughts. I would like to teach you all of these things to help you learn how to shift your perspective and turn a bad day into a great day. If this sounds interesting, send me an email at info@thewealthofwellness.com.